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Building a Healthy Relationship with your Children 

By April 12, 2019 No Comments

A typical teenager’s life revolves around his friends and inside his room, the doors of which are shut for the parents! And parents are always sitting outside waiting for the door to open, to be assured that all is well with their child, to extend support wherever they can. The question is how to get past that door? How do you build a healthy relationship with your child ?

If your daughter tells you she has been on a date with her boyfriend or your son tells you that he tried a beer with friends after school, is it a good or a bad news?

When teenagers come and share their ‘experiments’, ‘thrills’, ‘encounters’, ‘issues’, no matter how grave they are- it is a good news for the parents. Till your child doesn’t share with you his world, how can you possibly ever be of any help to him?  So listen to them without any judgement. It is not easy, as the protective parent in you will overpower you again and again. But the moment you preach and start talking about morals and values, your child will run away from you.

Remember you have been through this confusion yourself as a teenager, when you were growing up. All you needed at that time was someone who could understand you. Just be understanding, that’s the best way to sail through the storm of adolescence with your child.

What is your growing child going through?

  • Physical  changes
  • Identity crisis
  • Pressure to get good marks and plan future
  • Pressure to fit in the peer group
  • Development of values and thoughts

What does a growing child need from parents?

They need ‘listening’, without judgments and reactions

What they don’t need from parents?


What teenagers don’t know about parents?

Parents may not be the ‘coolest’ friend, but certainly the most reliable one in the whole world!

How can you be a support to your child ?

  • Listen and acknowledge their feelings, never moralize or deny them.
  • Share anecdotes and stories from your teenage life, he/she will feel you have also grown up like a ‘normal’ adolescent
  • Don’t make decisions; empower them to reach a conclusion.
  • Don’t take their ‘No’ as a sign of disrespect; they are simply discovering their mind.
  • Assure them, you will be there no matter what ‘wrong’ they do.

These are a few steps that you can take to ensure that you build a healthy relationship with your children.

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